Why can't we all just get along?
I do a lot of reading on online forums and communities, mostly parenting sites, a few others.
Places like this are such a wonderful resource, aren't they?
Not only are you reading, but you're talking to others about their
experiences, and I have gained quite a bit of knowledge from things like
this. Like I said, I belong to a few parenting communities, and a
bunch of bloggers communities as well, and not only are they helpful,
but they give me an opportunity to meet others who have things in common
with myself. My husband is a member of a few different forums that
meet his interests as well.
On the parenting sites
that I read, there is always so much drama in the midst of the helpful
stuff that most of us are actually looking for. Which brings me to my
original question. Why can't we all just get along?!
One
of the biggest arguments I see commonly is a stay at home vs work
outside of the home parenting debate. I really don't understand why
this is something that is even arguable.
I am a stay
at home parent. There are a lot of reasons for this. My husband works
overnight, he is gone for probably about 16 hours a day due to travel
time, traffic, and 12 hour shifts. He does make enough money to support
us and pay our bills. Him and I (and essentially, our daughter as
well, as she'd be in childcare) would never see each other if I were to
get a 9-5 somewhere. I have brought up the possibility of me working a
few different times when it seemed that money might be tighter than we
would have liked, however, he has always declined, as he really enjoys
having me at home. This really just works so well with our family
dynamic.
That being said, in me personally, I have
never completely lost a small want to work (which, in all honesty, is a
small part of why I started this blog, and am hoping to get to a point
where I am treating it like a job.), even though I absolutely LOVE
caring for my family and my home. I do give a lot ( just about all) of
myself, and my whole lifestyle basically changed when we made this
decision. I love this life, and we are blessed to have it. I wouldn't
have it any other way. I know that each and every one of my family's
needs is met, usually by myself, and I do truly love that.
I also fully grasp the fact that moms who work outside of
the home are BUSY. And that a lot of them made the decision to work
based on necessity, just like we decided it was necessary for me to stay
at home.
My point is, why are we arguing about
something like this. We all have different reasons for different
aspects in our lives. We are all doing what we feel is best for our
families. We all have similar goals in that we want happy, healthy and
prosperous families, right? Why can't we just leave it at that?!
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